- Written by Dave Pughe-Parry Dave Pughe-Parry
- Parent Category: ADHD People ADHD People
- Published: 26 June 2015 26 June 2015
Is this picture normal?
Does normal really exist? When it comes to people, I don't think it does. Is there such a thing as a “normal person?”
In order for someone to be labelled as normal, there has to be a qualifier as to what type of person constitutes “normal.”
Could you say that someone is a “normal woman” for instance without insulting her? That definition is too broad to define who or what she is. We need to add more qualifiers to get a proper sense of who or what our “normal woman” is.
She is a normal business woman. That helps us somewhat. But what kind of business is our elusive woman in? The term businesswoman could conjure up an image of a tall person who is power-dressed in grey, white shirt confidently giving orders.
But I know that the majority of businesswomen would never wear that uniform. I also know that less than half of women in business would strut down a corporate passage either, confidently or timidly. So again, we need more qualifiers or descriptions to define clearly who or what this normal woman is.
Eventually we will have a huge list of qualifiers that still won’t won’t accurately define our “normal woman.” Another example is, “he is just a normal accountant.” Is that a description of the so-called “little grey man?” Some of the most dynamic and entrepreneurial people I know are accountants, hardly little or grey.
So we are stuck when it comes to describing “normal” people. The Oscar-winning actress Whoopi Goldberg - she has ADHD by the way - says that “normal is just a cycle on a washing machine"
The irreverent Urban Dictionary makes clear the point with some excellent definitions:
A word made up by this corrupt society so they could single out and attack those who are different, and, Normal is nothing but a word made up by society - by Bill October 06, 2005
Normal is about as concrete as the idea of "love". The meaning is constantly evolving to suit the momentary desires and/or needs of a single person, or group of people, and, A tool of conformity - by Integra_grrl April 22, 2004
There is no such thing as normal so there really cant be a definition...... no one or no thing is Normal.... normal doesn’t exist - by blah August 29, 2003
The point of this article is for you to think carefully about you whether you wish your ADHD child or spouse could be normal. ADHD is normal, for each of us that have the condition. Hopefully this new perception will make your life easier and all your lives much happier as you stop chasing after this nebulous “thing” that doesn’t exist.