Celebrate Each Success

Wheel track record of successWe've all seen athletes celebrating a win, or reaching a milestone. As sport has got more competitive - often the margin between winning and losing is measured in milliseconds or millimeters - so the celebrations have become more intense.

Some are more animated than others, which doesn't make any difference. What is important is that the success is celebrated. Roger Federer is usually quite restrained compared to say Serena Williams, who is less inhibited.

No champion would NOT celebrate a win, or a record, or any other achievement. And so it should be with ADDers seeking to overcome the difficulties caused by ADHD.

In the article about Focusing on Strengths, I talk about having something to build on, and how winning becomes a habit. Celebrating each victory, no matter how small, builds on the foundation for the future. It is the "track record of success" that provides the energy and the inspiration to succeed today, and tomorrow.

Just imagine the horror of what a track record of failure leads to. One of the most degrading insults to another person is the scornful "you loser!" The impact of that contemptuous put-down is compounded many times over when you say it to yourself.

If you start something believing you are going to fail, you will fail, confirming what you believe about yourself. The opposite is equally true. If you set out to win or achieve, the worst that can happen is you come second or just miss out on your goal. In this case you have something to use - knowing what to correct to improve the next time.

Roger Federer backhandLooking at your track record as a string of failures is so depressing, but looking at the same track record as a path of growth and improvement is inspiring and exciting, galvanizing you into success. Celebrating success and learning from the failures is important - it's a great way to keep the humiliation of depression and anxiety at bay.

If you think about it appropriately, there is no failure, there are only practice runs for success!
One of the basic ADHD coaching modules is called "Failing For Success." You may get lucky and succeed once, but in order to build that all important Track Record of Success, there have to failures, usually more failures than successes!

You see, you simply can't have success without failure!